Overview: You can be sure you are doing good enough college preparation with your homeschooled teen when you keep these simple things in mind.
Why are you afraid to homeschool high school? Ask that question of anyone who hasn’t tried it yet, and you’ll almost always get the same answer: “I’m afraid I won’t prepare my children well enough for college.” It’s a universal fear—and one that I had myself!—but like many of the other things that scare us about homeschooling high school, the angst about college preparation can be easily dealt with.
How do I know, you ask? Well, we’ve graduated
three FOUR FIVE children from our homeschool — each of which is vastly different from the other—and though for the youngest it’s too soon to tell, the others have all gone on to college and have done fine.
(One didn’t graduate from college; instead she quit after two years, but that wasn’t due to bad grades–unless you count B’s as bad grades, which I do NOT. She merely decided that the academic environment was not her cup of tea, so she came home and began working full time, which worked out great for her.)
So, having clarified that, I want you to take a deep breath and just listen to me for a minute. :-)
I’m going to come right out and say it: it IS totally possible to be confident that your homeschooled teen has good enough college preparation.
And it’s not as big a deal as you think. There are a few simple processes you can incorporate into your high school homeschool that will be the best ways to ensure adequate college preparation for your child. Many of them come naturally to the average, conscientious homeschool parent (which you are, if you are taking the time to read this).
In fact, you are probably doing some of them already, even if you’ve gotten no higher than middle school so far.
If you do these things, then you can be confident that you are giving your teen adequate college preparation:
1) Do your research.
Use the internet to find out what colleges require for admission from their high school applicants. I’ve written an entire post on this, so I’m not going to go into detail here. Suffice it to say that this is the first thing we should do when we start even considering homeschooling high school.
Making sure that your homeschool high school curriculum has enough credits in each subject area to satisfy college admissions officers is a HUGE confidence booster about whether or not we are doing our job of preparing them well.
In fact, I also wrote a book about planning your high school coursework with college requirements as the foundation. Cure the Fear of Homeschooling High School: A Step-By-Step Manual for Research & Planning will guide you through the process of checking those requirements and building your teen’s coursework plan around them. You will feel so much better when you know you haven’t missed anything important, am I right?
2) Teach your teen to learn independently.
This will probably have been started in middle school (or earlier!), but if not, now is the time.
What this means is guiding your teen to take ownership of learning the content of their courses. In other words, the high school student should be reading the lesson or watching the video and then completing the assignment without relying on you for instruction or explanation. They should be checking their daily work and learning from their mistakes. They should be studying for tests on their own. Your involvement should only be to answer the occasional question and to grade tests and papers.
Why is this so important? Because that is what college is. In college your child is given a syllabus and is expected to follow it. He is expected to stay on track with assignments and turn papers in on time. He is expected to seek out help when he doesn’t understand; no one will hold his hand and check in on him.
If your teen is in charge of most of their learning while they are in high school and being generally successful, then you can feel certain they are being well prepared for college.
I want to just reassure you here that this is a process. I always recommend having them fully independent in this way by junior year, or senior year at the latest. But before then, you are helping them learn this skill.
There is a chapter in my latest book about how to make this happen, especially if you haven’t started until high school. The book is called Save Your Sanity While Homeschooling High School: Practical Principles for a Firm Foundation; and trust me, having your teen learn independently will totally help keep you sane! :-)
3) Give them a strong language arts foundation.
In my opinion, language arts is more important than science or math. Because if the student has good grammar and a wide vocabulary, understands how to read higher level subject matter, and can express themselves through speech and writing, then they will be able to read and understand just about anything that is thrown at them in college, including the science and math.
The reverse—that the kid who can handle high level math will be able to read and understand other subjects—may not be true.
Also, all college majors involve using language; not all of them involve math and science.
So don’t give up on the grammar just because they are in high school. Encourage reading of all genres. Give them lots of opportunities to write. If your teen is capable of handling the English language well, then you can be confident they will be ready to tackle college coursework.
Related: Episode 52 — How to Prepare your Homeschooled Teen for College Writing
4) Teach them to manage their time.
This is related to #2 but isn’t exactly the same. Sometimes a kid is able to learn independently just fine, but they don’t discipline themselves to do it in a timely fashion.
In college they will need to juggle classes, work, sleep, and their burgeoning social life. :-) Give them opportunities to practice that now. Give them opportunities to fail at that now. It’s definitely better for them to suffer consequences and learn lessons in time management now at home rather than later at college, when you are spending the big bucks!
If you are teaching your teen to be responsible for how they use their time, then you are doing a good job of preparing them for college. More about exactly how to go about that in a guest post I did here: 5 Ways to Guide Your Teen in the Art of Time Management.
Related Post: Homeschooling Teens Who Are Easily Distracted — with printable
5) Don’t always let them redo everything to get an A.
This is one of my personal pet peeves with homeschoolers. Of course we want mastery, but if we always let the kid retake every test or rewrite every paper, they never learn to do it right the first time.
I gave my kids B’s (and lower) when they deserved them. I personally think a transcript with all A’s is suspect, y’all.
Yes, there are plenty of kids who earn them—but do they earn ALL straight A’s, or might there be an A- or two in there? Or even—gasp!—a B+? Every homeschooled kid is not an A student, hello. Don’t try to pretend they are, just because you would like them to be. They won’t get the opportunity to redo things in college.
If you are holding your teen accountable for the quality of their work the FIRST time, then you can know that they won’t be overwhelmed by the same expectation in college.
Related: Episode 54 – Preparing for College Academically
Doing the above things will give us confidence that we are doing all we can to prepare our kids. But wait; I’ve got more encouragement for you! :-)
Consider these other factors that will help you feel affirmed about whether you are providing adequate college preparation:
6) The SAT and ACT are good indicators of whether your child is ready for college.
If the scores from these tests are rather low, you might want to consider some other type of career path. If the scores are average or above average, then your child has the ability to handle college-level work. This is completely objective, y’all. No homeschool mom bias here.
Related Post: College Entrance Exams Q&A
7) Colleges are aware that freshmen need help adjusting to college-level work and college-level expectations.
Often there is an entire course during the very first semester that teaches the freshmen about study skills, time management, how to use the library, etc. There is usually also a huge support system for freshmen, from the RA on their dorm floor, to orientation small groups, to student mentors, and more.
And many college professors who teach freshmen classes are more communicative when it comes to expectations and scheduling, as well as giving lots of feedback on assignments.
Knowing this on the front end can help allay fears about your child being able to adapt. They are given every opportunity during that first year to learn everything they need to know.
Related: Episode 55 – How to Prepare Your Homeschooled Teen for College Socially/Emotionally
8) And then there’s the consideration of what type of college you are trying to prepare your child for anyway.
Sometimes I think we homeschoolers feel like we have to plan as if our child will be going to an Ivy League school, because if we shoot for anything less, we’re not measuring up to the “homeschool elite” out there who have been winning the national spelling bees and acing the honors courses and running their own businesses by age 18.
Guess what? Most of us are ordinary.
Most of us will be sending our children to the local community college or state school, or maybe a small private school. Those places will LOVE your homeschooled child. Or at the very least they won’t expect them to be a superstar of the highest order.
It’s OK to have an average student going to an average college, y’all!! I feel so strongly about this point that I wrote an entire post about it, which is called The Truth About How to “Look Good” on College Applications.
My book Save Your Sanity While Homeschooling High School has a chapter about things to consider when choosing a college for your teen, along with chapters about many other topics that will ease your mind about what you “must” do. Take a look at it here: Save Your Sanity While Homeschooling High School: Practical Principles for a Firm Foundation.
9) THERE IS HELP.
You are not alone! Wow, when I think back to Fall of 2012, which is when I started homeschooling high school, I am frankly jealous of all the resources y’all have now. Feel free to browse my website and listen to my podcast; over the years I have published information about almost every aspect of homeschooling high school!
If you haven’t signed up for my email newsletter yet, then do so in the sidebar or in the box for the Quick College Confidence Guide towards the top of this page. Then you’ll get regular tips and encouragement from me as you travel this journey!
Then there’s my Facebook group, It’s Not that Hard to Homeschool High School, where you can ask any question you want and get wonderful feedback from many moms who have felt just like you. When you have support, it is SOOOO much easier to be confident in what you are doing!
I know how insecure we can feel when thinking about homeschooling high school, especially when it comes to college preparation. But I’m here to say that you’ve got this!!
By paying attention to the things I’ve listed above, you can be confident that you’re giving your teen all the college preparation they need to be successful.
So no more worries, OK?? :-)
- Episode 95: An Announcement and an Introduction - February 17, 2023
- Episode 94: Help! I’m a Failure as a Homeschool Mom! - February 3, 2023
- Episode 93: How to Transition to High School — by Alyssa Woolf - December 16, 2022
12 thoughts on “College Preparation for the Homeschooled Teen: How to Ensure They will Succeed”
Great article Anne – especially the point about the importance of language arts. I’ve got three older kids (one just started university, one graduated and one nearing the end of a doctorate) plus one still homeschooling and I know I’m more relaxed with her since I no longer have those nagging doubts about whether I’m doing enough. Everyone can tell you it’ll be fine but until you experience it yourself you’re not convinced. Or perhaps that is just me!
Thanks, Sandra! Yes, there’s nothing like actual experience to ease fears — but hopefully I can encourage some along the way! :-) Thanks for stopping by!
It’s the strong language arts base that I’m afraid of…. my son is only 11 so we have time still but for the love of everything holy I really wish he’d start showing some real progress in reading comprehension and writing. We keep plugging away at it and I hope it will eventually pay off.
Yes, it will. Mostly just encourage him to read good books of all kinds. Also find a good grammar curriculum that you both like. The finesse of writing will happen later as long as he has a good foundation. I know you both will do great! :-)
This is great!! Very informative :) Thank you for sharing!
You’re welcome, Pepper! Thanks for commenting! :-)
These are really good tips, and it’s clear that you’ve prepared your kids well. As a longtime college professor at a big state school in the South, I’ve seen a number of homeschooled and non-homeschooled students come through my classroom and I would add just a couple of things.
1) Try to ensure that your kid is familiar with a range of historical and literary topics. I think this may be more of an issue with the “un-schoolers,” since many homeschoolers I know use a set curriculum for at least part of their schooling. But I do find that kids who did not get a traditional public/private high school education are more likely to have very deep knowledge of one or a few topics (the Napoleonic Wars, Charles Dickens, etc.) but gaps in their knowledge concerning important context relevant to those topics, historically or culturally (French Revolution, Corn Laws, Chartism, Elizabeth Gaskell, Wilkie Collins, etc). Some students don’t even have a good sense of what general period comes before/after what (and that is regardless of what kind of schooling they’re coming out of). There’s real value in the “survey” as well as in the “deep dive.” Make sure your kid can do both, because the dive won’t be thoughtful or accurate if his or her overall GPS hasn’t been calibrated.
2) Make sure your kid has practice in the kind of informal give-and-take of a classroom discussion. I know that many homeschoolers work together in groups, so they would be less likely to have this issue; but to a certain extent, any kid coming out of a very small “tutorial” type setting is going to be somewhat more likely to be a little “tone deaf” to the dynamics of a classroom discussion. In a college setting, you are often graded on your participation in class: not simply “do you contribute,” but
a) does your comment show that you are well-prepared?
b) does it show that you are connecting your reading of the material to the information we have been talking about in class so far? [so far these would be similar to a tutorial]
c) can you connect your comment to the comments of others around you, and link to the discussion at large, building on previous threads, or are you off on your own somewhere ignoring the rest of the class?
d) can you leave room for others to speak as well or do you monopolize the room?
e) can you take criticism of your reading of the text and adjust your argument accordingly, to make it stronger? [e.g. not just get defensive, but consider other approaches to the text. This might take the form of acknowledging their position, “It might seem that X, but in fact Y, because Z”].
f) can you challenge other people on their readings, in a constructive way and without attacking them? [again, this is a really tricky skill to learn at that age if you have not been practicing it]
A skilled discussant is different from a skilled debater, in part because in a discussion you have to press your position but without the oppositional, antagonistic mode; in fact, the possibility of agreement should always be there (though not necessarily a goal! Things are not always that simple). Anyway, when I write letters of recommendation for grad school, law school, etc. I always address the student’s powers and abilities in discussion as well as in written work. In my experience one very often reflects the other, and students who’ve had particular difficulty of this sort in class discussion — to the extent that I need to advise them about it — have often come from non-traditional schooling. But one does not have to go to school in a large classroom to learn this stuff. Discussions in a big family might very well help students prepare for classroom discussion with their peers, especially if parents are attentive to the parallels.
Ooo, this is all very good stuff, Meegan! Especially coming from someone whose perspective is from the “finish line” side of the goal! I especially love the part about learning how to be a good “discussant” (which is new word for me, love it!). In fact, that very topic might be worthy of its own blog post. Can I quote you? :-)
I’m an educator. Only time I’ve ever seen a retake allowed is in a math course when the student fails the first time. He was allowed to retake the next day, and then the grades were averaged, not replaced. If the child scored a 40% the first time and an 80% the second time, the recorded grade would be 60%. This system encouraged better studying while still promoting mastery and not inflating grades.
Please, find other ways than retakes for attaining mastery. High grades are part of the reward fora job well done. Low grades are part of the reward for a job poorly done.
I think you’re agreeing with me, here? It’s hard to tell from the way you’ve worded your comment, but since that’s basically what I say in the article, your plea to “find other ways” must be directed to people that read it rather than me? :-)
Excellent points! Our boys are in 10th grade so – thankfully – we have a little more time. But this article helped me feel like we’re on the right track 👍🏼
Oh good, I’m glad you feel positive about what you’ve been doing! Thanks for stopping by! :-)